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Advice on love and sanity for the 21st century

You are What You Hate: More Advice from Pema Chodron

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Oh my God, I wasn’t in the door five minutes today when I found myself boiling with irritation. The drive! Please, the hurricane was on Sunday. Why are people still driving like they can’t find the gas pedal. One of my office mates has been a thoroughgoing…..(fill in the blank with your favorite expletive here) […] [Read More]
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Sit on Your Hands: What to do when the world is turned upside down

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Beautiful weather we’ve been having. Yesterday, after the earthquake nonsense, I sat for a few moments on a bench. Fall is coming. Already there are leaves curled on the grass, but the sky was blue, without the glare of humidity, and I found myself transported back to a time when I was living on a […] [Read More]
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Inner Calm: Wisdom from the Dalai Lama, stock market blues

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One of the reasons I find Buddhism so encouraging is that as you read across traditions and lineages — that is, if you read Zen, or Tibetan, or Cambodian, or Indian expressions of Buddhism, they don’t disagree with one another. Sure there are points of emphases, and different esoteric practices, but the fundamentals are the […] [Read More]
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Why are Addicts, Addicts? : A blunted system for reward?

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Why do some people become addicts, and other people seem to handle the alcohol and the drugs, or even play around with them for awhile and shake them. The New York Times had an uncharacteristically balanced and intelligent article on the subject a couple of days ago, reflecting somewhat on the death of English soul […] [Read More]
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