Improving Resiliency….Bouncing Back With Humor

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Recently I attended a meeting in LA at a time when those buttons were introduced from Staples that, when pushed, say “THAT WAS EASY!“ It was novel the first day, 3 days later I heard “THAT WAS EASY” a few times too often.
After the meeting, I packed that overused button in the outside pouch of my suitcase and launched a grueling cross country trip to the next client site. I found an affordable flight from LA to Raleigh, NC on the client’s preferred air carrier, so initially I felt proud of my good find…until details unfolded. I hastily printed out the schedule when reality set in…LA – Raleigh flight time 10+ hrs. Being in a hurry, I never checked to see how many stops were included, I only saw the day, price and hastily confirmed travel plans.

As it turned out, the odyssey flight lumbered across the U.S.: LA, Phoenix, Houston, Dallas, New Orleans, Tampa, Orlando, Raleigh, leaving 8 A.M. arriving after 11 P.M. amid monsoon rain. With only peanuts, pretzels, water and diet soda enroute all day, and not enough time between stops to find airport food fare, my mood deteriorated quickly. You know the routine when you arrive at your destination: gather luggage, rent a car, find the hotel. On that night, well after midnight and getting lost on a Beeline highway, I finally got directions at a gas station and even succumbed to a tired looking sandwich at a gas station kiosk. At 1 A.M. I pulled into the rain drenched hotel parking lot and took my suitcase out. As I anchored it with my knee against the car, so it didn’t fall over into puddles, I heard the familiar sound “THAT WAS EASY” come from the outside compartment of the suitcase. Yelling to the heavens in that driving rain “NOT!”, I fleetingly saw the humor in the scene and laugh uncontrollably. CHOICE POINT! I could carry my soggy, tired mood to the person who awaited my arrival at the front desk or “CHOOSE” to see the humor in my travel weary day. Fortunately, I chose the latter. I hastily ran into the hotel lobby, shared my story briefly while checking in and the hotel clerk and I both enjoyed a laugh. Best news…he shared his pizza with me and the client site, where I needed to be at 7 A.M., was across the parking lot.

Why share this story? We all need to develop our own version of RESILIENCY, RESOURCEFULNESS, and the ability to REINVENT ourselves at any moment. It’s what I call the new 3 R’s. That’s who we really are and it’s available 24/7. Think about where you’re most vulnerable (ex: public speaking, technology, writing, networking, organizing, prioritizing to name a few). Find ways to harness your vulnerability and choose a different path.

NOTE FROM JOYCE…Everyone has great stories about your own resiliency in situations that happened to you. Share one so we can learn from each other. Meanwhile, enjoy a fun filled, resilient day.

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Ushering in 2013…a new you?

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With the dropping of the ball in Times Square, NY, fireworks and celebrations around the globe, individual traditions and resolutions (or NOT), we usher in 2013. I recently saw a great quote by Brad Paisley, popular country singer…worth pondering in coming days.

“Today is the first blank of a 365 page book. Make it a good one.” Brad Paisley

How WILLyou make this year your best year yet?

NOTE FROM JOYCE: Post your thoughts; we’ll share as much of your thinking as feasible.

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Set One Point of Focus

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Set One Point Of Focus

After a holiday weekend filled with activities and R&R, I found myself racing off to Monday morning Yoga. And so it launched…. Sun salutations, Downward dog, Cobra, Locust, Fish, Plough, Shoulder Stand, Spinal Twist, total body rest…finally the traditional Namaste. At one point our instructor mentioned the words “set one point of focus.” From a brief visual scan of my fellow yoga practitioners, it seemed that everyone heard those words with different meanings although no thoughts were shared…until later. Afterwards, in conversation, several interpretations were disclosed. First was the Yoga intention, then replies ranged from “complete building and decorating that birdhouse by myself,” “write an overdue letter to a friend,” “finish weeding the garden by tonight,” “prepare a special meal this evening,” and on the list went.
Here’s the point. We often “do” for others all day and place ourselves last at the end of our own to do list…many times too tired to accomplish anything for ourselves. As the flight attendant says regularly, “put your own mask on first and then help others around you who need assistance.“ There’s a reason for that advice. Once you’re taken care of, you can be there for others more fully and consciously. We’ll rarely accomplish even a fraction of what we are wholly capable of doing. Why? In spite of well intentioned advice, we’re often too busy to Set One Point of Focus for ourselves.
What would it look like if you…Set One Point Of Focus for today? And, what will it take to achieve that result?
As always, we value hearing your ideas. Write to us and let us know something that you’re doing for yourself today, tomorrow, and for the entire month.

The Olympics and YOU!

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Goals keep us focused; are you taking steps to achieve the targets that are important to you? Speaking of goals, It’s fun every now and then to digress and imagine achieving aims that may be different from everyday reality. This question is one such exercise.
Now that Olympic competition is approaching the finals, athletes from around the globe race, dive, shoot, row, run, perform, balance, hurl and display every other human contortion one can imagine. Now it’s your turn. Place yourself on the world stage. You’re guaranteed a medal so if you could participate in one event, what would it be? And WHY?
Imagine what people in your life would choose and what their reasons might be. See how well you can second guess your inner circle.
Have fun and CONGRATULATIONS on your gold medal ceremony!
Now, back to reality. Given all the inspiration provided by Olympic athletes, who has inspired you and how might it lead you to stay on course with your current goals?

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The Messages of Chronic Lateness

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The Messages Of Chronic Lateness
Have you ever considered this Leo Kennedy quote “The surest way to be late is to have plenty of time.”
Most of us have probably experienced this phenomenon from one or both perspectives…keeping people waiting or showing up late to an event or the opposite, being put in a position to wait for someone. It is almost always noticed and especially if it’s chronic and happens regularly. How do you feel when you’re the one waiting for someone else to arrive and they’re late? Occasionally is one thing but chronic lateness gets annoying very quickly. Look, for a minute, at common reasons behind this reality to see where the shoe fits for you:
…Trying to do too much before you meet the person
…Feeling that it won’t matter to the person you’re meeting
…Adopting the attitude “That’s just the way I am”
…Thinking that the other person “won’t mind”
…Operating from a usual mode of being disorganized
…Lacking personal self esteem; “Why would anyone care if I’m late for this event?”
If you find yourself in the habit of running late, consider an easy to implement reminder: start out earlier, set a personal alarm, or make a quick phone call. It’s not only appropriate but also appreciated and respectful. It’s often said that 85% of fixing a problem is recognizing it. The act of keeping people waiting is viewed most often as disrespectful, arrogant, placing more importance on your time vs. the person you’re meeting, and many more descriptions, rarely complimentary and often not consciously true. The more you recognize reasons behind your lateness, the more aware you are and can fix it or adopt a new attitude. It’s often that simple. Look into your own habits…perhaps it’s time to take stock and adopt a new policy on this common everyday behavior.

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Imagination and Focus…Make time for both

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Imagination and Focus…Make Time for Both
Everyone needs time to dream, be outrageous and allow creativity to flow. As well, we need time to get busy, productive and accomplish necessary tasks. As those situations occur, don’t confuse their meaning. One isn’t bad and the other good. They’re BOTH good. Wings allow us to soar, be creative, giving imagination free reign. Roots ground us and provide the discipline to complete tasks, record findings, share insights and observations from a unique perspective…YOURS!
There’s a time and place for both; it’s up to us not to deem one good and one bad. We all need both. It’s valuable to get away from our surroundings, workspace, pressures, daily worries, thoughts and seek an environment that feels relaxing, rejuvenating, and like home. In the same way, there’s a time to roll up our sleeves, concentrate and focus when a job needs to get done, you need to meet a deadline, or take on and complete a difficult task.
Most everyone has heard the expression roots and wings. Truth is we need them both. ROOTS keep us grounded and WINGS allow our creativity to soar. Make time in your day to experience both the freedom of imagination and the power of focus. Hodding Carter, U.S. Journalist and author may have said it best “There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings.”

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Laughing Matters …

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Could you use a laugh?  April is national Humor Month and according to chief jester,  Joel Goodman, Director of the HUMOR PROJECT, located in Saratoga Springs, NY,  everyone should get more smileage out of life. 

Joel writes a monthly e-mail newsletter, Laughing Matters.  Check it out  www.HumorProject.com.   This one of a kind humor organization is dedicated solely to the jest of life.  This month’s Laughing Matters highlight is TGIF (Thank G-d it’s Funday) and discusses events such as Prairie Dog Chile Cookoff,  Pickled Quail Egg Eating Championship, No Housework Day and Walk on Your Wild Side Day.  To find out more about  those”out of the ordinary” options check out April 2012 Laughing Matters .  Then,  forward Laughing Matters e-zine to friends, colleagues, family members. Joel encourages everyone to sign up for a complimentary copy of Humor Project’s 2012 Sourcebook .  The Sourcebook is filled with outstanding humor resources, books, tapes, props, and much more. 

The Humor Project is also hosting their 55th conference on The Positive Power of Humor and Creativity, which will be held June 1-3, 2012 at beautiful Silver Bay on Lake George in upstate New York.  Registration is extended to April 17th from the previous March 14th registration deadline. You’ll be introduced to Gabrielle Giffords, keynoter Peter Funt of Candid Camera fame, along with many others. 

Stay tuned for more tips, hints and Humor How To’s!   And, if someone made you belly laugh recently, share what is printable with all of us.

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For Everything there is a reason

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FOR EVERYTHING THERE IS A REASON

Earlier this month I was traveling by train after a tough day at the office.  I noticed a folded paper tucked beside my seat which clearly wasn’t mine. The note card was made from an appealing array of pastel colors. It caught my eye immediately.  Although I didn’t want to infringe on anyone’s privacy, I felt compelled to open it. My curiosity won out. I opened the colorful note card and the neatly hand printed message inside said simply:

Life is beauty, praise it.
Life is a puzzle, solve it.
Life is opportunity, take it.
Life is sorrowful, experience it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a goal, achieve it.
Life is a mission, fulfill it. 

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Wherever that message came from, whoever placed it there, and why I picked it up, I’ll never know. I’m a firm believer that there are no accidents. From that moment on, I had a smile on my face, a song in my heart and the previously dismal day took on a whole new meaning.  Thanks, angel.  You’re always welcome in my world.

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