I’ve received a lot of e-mails asking what I thought about leaving a relationship due to feeling “stuck” and having nowhere else to go. One person wrote, “I can’t walk away too soon in hopes that maybe things will change. I think I should just stick around to see what happens.”
Something I do not agree with – people who stick around in a situation or relationship just to “see what happens.”
You have better things to do.
Don’t waste your time. If you’re sitting there waiting for something to happen, chances are the
other person isn’t as involved as you – or else you’d be making things happen together. A relationship is something – near or far – that two people have a hand in to make work. There is no “seeing what happens,” but there is a “seeing where this takes us.” And there is an immense difference in those two statements.
I get it, I get it. He or she great. Amazing even. They can make you feel fabulous and real. They says all the right things. But if they’re not committing after being asked to, or even making an effort to do so, there’s a possibility they’re making others out there feel the same fabulous way that they’re making you feel.
Not so awesome now, right?
Great advice I once received on this was as follows:
“When a man tells you he doesn’t want commitment, repeat it to your friends, family or write it down. That forces you to see, hear and accept that he means it..and believe me, he does.”
You deserve to be happy and be with someone who is happy to be with you. Remember that.
That being said, I’ve compiled a short list of break-up songs that will get you back on track in no time at all.
“Ex-factor” – Lauryn Hill
“Sitting, Waiting, Wishing” – Jack Johnson
“Song Cry” – Jay Z
“Lucy” – Atmosphere
“Shake It Off” – Mariah Carey
“Take a Bow” – Leona Lewis
“Moving Mountains” – Usher