Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?
I’m pretty sure this is a myth set in truth. Stay with me, here.
Fact: When you haven’t seen someone in awhile, it’s their faults that fade away, not their positive attributes.
Fact: Reuniting with loved ones is always great and the steps to getting there can give you that butterflies-we-never-knew-we-loved-each other-this-much feeling.
Myth: Those faults that faded away will continuously remain unhidden after your reunion.
Myth: Absence is a great way to see if you two are meant to be. If you struggle through it, clearly the feelings were worth all the hurt and anguish.
FACT: Absence can, at times, be the devil in disguise.
I’ve never been one to stop a relationship due to distance. I do have my doubts on the ability of these relationships to succeed if distance continues to play a role and there is no plan to eventually unite. But I think the true key to these relationships working is the ability for both parties to be in agreement about the end result.
Will we play it out and see what happens? Should we end it now before emotions are involved? Should one make the sacrifice to move to the other?
I can’t answer these questions – not for myself or for you, unfortunately. It’s only a feeling and a mutual trust between the two of you that will answer these.
What I do know is that feelings are involved with two individuals for a reason. Regardless of if you live with your loved one or if you’re 1,000 miles away. There’s something magnetic that will make or break a relationship. That’s what attracted you to your lover in the first place. It’s the strength of that bond that will hold things together or tear them apart. Be aware of not only that strength, but the ability to break from that strength as well – be it your ability or your partners.
If you don’t think you can make it through with the other person so far away – don’t be ashamed to admit it. Distance relationships are for certain people, not for everyone. Most importantly: whether you cut these feelings off overnight or hide them, just make sure the move you’re making isn’t one you’ll regret later on.
Sometimes things can’t be undone.
So I guess, through our logical explanation the truth is: absence makes a relationship, which can at times be difficult just on its own, a whole lot harder.