Imagine this: A relationship that has everything – the dates, the long talks, the kisses, the food sharing, the late nights and the early mornings, all without a glitch. Well, one glitch. The fact that it isn’t a relationship.
After a completely and utterly informal survey amongst my closest friends, I’ve discovered that these are happening more and more often lately. People are becoming connected to one another – much past that of a hook up – yet are hesitant to define it.
Could it be that as we grow older, we’re more scared to jump into a relationship than we were back in our glory days of high school or college? That we’re scared to let someone in and shake up the person we’ve just learned that we are?
It’s hard to say – especially being on the younger side of this phenomenon. But I will say this, sometimes, things are better left unsaid. Why fix something if it isn’t broken?
I say this almost to convince myself, as I am one of the few who still believe that something is legitimate if and only if it has a title. You can walk away and never respond to someone who wasn’t your boyfriend without feeling absolutely terrible regardless of what you‘ve invested. But, if there’s a definition of the relationship, it makes cutting ties a little harder. On the plus side, it also makes the bond that you two share a little stronger and definitely much, much sweeter.
So erase the what if’s, the how come’s and the what now’s and just take the plunge. It’s worth it.