I won’t lie to you. A (very) large contributing factor to me choosing a life in journalism was watching my first Superman movie. Here is Lois Lane, a successful female journalist eventually falling for Superman, by far the best super hero America, and I’d put money that even the world, has ever seen.
Writing has always been my passion. But when you top that off with the possibility to date a super hero? Hook, line and sinker – I was sold.
But the real-life newsroom is a much different place than in the movies. Someone I care about a lot told me recently, “That’s why they make movies – because that stuff could never happen in real life. This way, you can at least live it out for the two hours of the film.”
He was right.
Sometimes it’s hard to get everything you want, and even harder to be satisfied with what you have.
I’ve always been very independent. I have a few close friends that I rely on, but I’ve never been one to ask for much – instead I’m much more willing to give.
I have a great family and my own apartment, I’ve worked hard to earn a bachelor’s and master’s degree and am working towards a great career.
So, why do I feel like I’m missing something?
Many say that even the strongest woman sometimes feels the need to be rescued from her ordinary life. But my life is not an ordinary one. In fact, I’m pretty sure it’s one of the least ordinary out there. Furthermore, I don’t believe that anyone needs to be rescued from their own life – it’s yours, ultimately you’re in control and can only save yourself.
I have a different take on this.
Woman are raised to believe that they need to nurture something. We’re given baby dolls as toys and taught how to feed them, change their diapers and fix their hair. Boys are given G.I. Joes and other action figures that they’re taught to fight and wage war with – not too much sensitivity there.
Then, when we get older, we replace dolls with boyfriends and care for them as best we can. We feel the need to make sure they’re comfortable, picking up after them, cooking for them and making sure they’re happy. I’m not saying that boyfriends don’t care for us, but our nurturing gene takes hold here – it’s almost primitive.
So, many of us fall for the wrong guys just to be able to have someone to take care of. I can hear some of my ultra-feminist friends scoffing at this post right now. But it’s true.
We try to fill that void with a person who we’re not sure will feel the same way towards us. But it’s always a chance we’re willing to take.
Back to Lois Lane and Superman. You thought I’d almost forgotten to tie this back in, right?
As most of us know, the relationship between Lois Lane and Superman was actually a love triangle between the two and Clark Kent. Clark, with no backbone, couldn’t quite win Lois over. But she fell hard for Superman, not because of his powers, but because of his attitude and confident personality. Despite all of their obstacles, he took care of her and he could make her feel like, just for a moment, she could let her guard down.
So, while it’s not the rescuing that woman are after, it may be the ability to let our guard down and just be ourselves around someone we want to care for. No games, no gimmicks. Just you and me.
But, the question now is: How long should a girl chase after her Superman knowing all the risks?