Something I’ve noticed about us women: We are persistent.
Whether it comes to our career, our family or our friends, we will stop at nothing to get what we want.
While I find this an amazing trait and probably the backbone for many of our successes, I also think this may be the great demise to some of us as well.
I was talking to one of my good guy friends yesterday. The conversation flowed to our recent dating stories. The central theme in his? That after a while, he would lose interest unless he was friends with the girl first.
Being me, I asked him about 40 roundabout questions regarding this. Why? Do they all have the same personality? What’s going on?
My conclusion? They all saw my friend as a personal challenge.
He even explicitly told one girl that if he were to start a physical relationship with her without being friends first, he would eventually not care.
What happened that night? They had a full-on make-out session.
Next day? He ignored her.
To take from “He’s Just Not That Into You,” she thought she could be the exception, not the rule.
This problem of persistence and continuously believing you’re the exception can give a girl a bad reputation.
But, as the movie states, most women are the rule, not the exception. And once we realize this, the game for guys becomes a little tougher, and in return, a little easier for us.
Don’t expect to change a guy’s ways right off the bat. If he tells you that he’ll lose interest, he probably will. If he tells you that he’s not really looking for anything right now, he probably isn’t. If he tells you he doesn’t want to commit, he probably won’t.
And no matter how awesome you are, it most likely won’t change his mind right away. Or at least not fast enough where it will be satisfying for you.
So stop chasing, wasting your time or doing anything else crazy to get him to notice you.
There’s so many other guys out there who are ready for casual dating, a relationship, or whatever else your little heart desires.