So you’ve met someone great and you’re gearing up for that first date. You’ve picked out the perfect outfit, know where you’re going and are in the process of figuring out what to do with your hair.
But something that can kill the connection even after all those crucial steps are met?
Terrible conversation.
Nothing is worse than sitting across from someone who you realize checks out perfectly via text messages and phone conversations, but is a complete dud in person as far as conversation is concerned.
So, here’s some advice to get them, or you, talking.
First, don’t try too hard. Don’t push conversation. You want to be natural and it’s natural in any conversation to have a silence or two.
If I’ve learned anything through my journalism background, it’s that people love to talk about themselves. Be prepared to ask your date questions about their hobbies, their job or anything else that is a somewhat light topic that can’t be answered with a ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ Where did they grow up? Do they have any brothers or sisters? Play off questions like this. It will keep the conversation interesting for both of you.
However, don’t take this as an open opportunity to ask about ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. In fact, don’t take any opportunity on this first date to open up the ex-files. Believe me, you don’t want it and neither do they.
Also, unless you are as open-minded as God himself, do not bring up topics revolving around politics or religion. How about we don’t shoot ourselves in the foot before we’ve even digested our dinner, okay?
Last, don’t be afraid to joke about an awkward or embarrassing moment during the date. It’ll show that you don’t take yourself too seriously and you have a sense of humor, which can be hard to find in people sometimes.
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