In the past day I have heard a lot of speculation about Victoria Hope, the Shelton mother found dead yesterday afternoon after she apparently delivered triplets in her home. Lots of speculation as to why she would hide a pregnancy, or how she didn’t know she was pregnant, or even how she didn’t know there were three babies.
Well, after an autopsy today, it showed according to the Boston Herald, all three baby boys were stillborn, which I personally may attribute to lack of pre natal care, but there is more to the story clearly, as well as her death being from blood lost, most likely could have been a postpartum hemorrhage, or some other type of complication from delivering three babies alone in her home.
As the night went on last night, I learned that my husband, a Shelton native, and first responder in our town grew up with her, and even spoke with her recently about getting our two year old’s together. Tori Hope, also was the mother of a 6 and 2 year old.
But my point is, today is a horribly sad day for family, and friends of this mother, and speculating, discussing, or making up accusations as to why this happened, what happened, and if she knew or didn’t know she was pregnant is not reliant.
A mother of two children is dead, and they are mourning the loss of their mother who they loved very much.
A boyfriend and father is mourning the loss of his love, and three sons who died.
A mother is mourning the loss of a daughter.
A father is mourning the loss of a daughter.
Stop speculating and whispering rumors around the internet which may become hurtful.
She was a person, and so were those babies, and all should be treated with respect and dignity.
Tori was my best friend, and as much as I know i need to stop reading all this stuff of the internet they keep posting – it’s hard… because I can’t call her to talk about my day anymore, we can’t share our funny – silly – or w/e stories about our kids.. I’ll never see her again… and that is probably the hardest thing for me (and many who knew her) to comr to terms with. I saw her 2 days before she passed on, and i had no idea she was pregnant and did not feel she was hiding anything from me… she wouldn’t have had any reason to! She was so much to so many and the media only cares about the “story” not those who grieve for who they lost. Tori was an angel on earth – and I was blessed to have the time I did have with her… out of selfishness – I wish i had more time… but she’s GOD’s child.
Thanks for your post about her.. it was refreshing to see something that didn’t try to speculate or trash her!
*Rest now my dear friend Tori – I love you – and I’ll be there for your family as much as I can!*
Comment by Melissa Johnson — February 19th, 2010 @ 2:58 pm
I am so sorry for your loss.
My husband was also a good friend of Tori.
Comment by elwood — February 19th, 2010 @ 4:07 pm
Thank you for posting this; it is nice to see a concerned post. I too am tired of hearing about all the speculation. My brother (19) passed away a year and a half ago from a drug overdose. There were all kinds of hurtful posts on the net with him also and I just view it as so unnecessary. As fellow human beings, why can we not just mourn the loss with the family? Even if we do not know them (which I dont) I think it is only right to send our love and sympathy their way. Grief, especially of a young loved one, is the most horrifying thing anyone could ever go through. My heart is with all of Tori’s family and I am soooooo sorry for your loss. I know it is hard, but you should try to stop reading these posts on the net, most of them are malicious. Instead, lean on one another and maybe start a memory page for her friends and family. THat way you can read only positive things. A good one is blogspot.com
I will be thinking of you throughout this year and hope that you seek help if you need it.
Love through grief,
Allison
Comment by Allison — February 25th, 2010 @ 2:05 pm