I think we’ve worked out a good co-existence with our adult son. A recent college grad with a job — thank goodness — he’s living at home because the job is close by and living here allows him to save money and start paying down his student loans. It’s not a permanent arrangement, by any means. I would guess that a year from now he no longer will be under our roof.
Although I’m sure he gets annoyed at the household chores/repairs we sometimes ask him to do, I think we respect his privacy and don’t treat him like a child. But I was worried about him the other night. It was past 8, going on 9, he wasn’t home from work and I hadn’t heard from him.
So I broke down and sent a text. “Should I be worried about you?”
He replied right away. He was sorry. Went out with some friends after work and didn’t watch the time. He thought he would have already been home by then.
I think he knows I try to give him space. But he also knows to give me a heads-up the next time. Once he moves out, I’ll have no knowledge of his comings and goings. But until then…