How many of you are Facebook friends with your older kids?
We’ve had a disagreement about this in our house lately. I think I should have access to see what my kids are posting online (I do with two out of three of them); my husband thinks it’s not necessary.
The thing is, I don’t exert any control, unless expressing my concern over language I saw being used (which I did in a private message), counts. Other than that, there has been nothing that I’ve seen on my occasional check-ins that has caused any concern. Do I think any of my kids are going to post inappropriate photos of themselves or do anything bad? Of course not.
But I worry. And when the child who is the youngest — and, at 15, might need a little bit of guidance — makes it clear that they don’t want you to see any of their online conversations, it raises a red flag. Even if their reason for shutting you out has more to do with stubbornness or a need to exert their teenage independence than it does with them actually having something to hide.
Just how much privacy should teens have online?