OK, so I know I wrote about this “Mama Bear” thing last week, but I have to revisit.
It’s one thing to worry about our kids and want to shelter them from being hurt. But how often do you run to their rescue? And by that I mean are you one of those mothers who’ll take the homework they forgot into school on your way to work? Or are you the kind of mom who will go ahead and do their evening chores because they were busy with after-school activities and now have school work to finish? Or maybe you’re the mom who would spend four hours in the car delivering an item that they forgot to take with them to sleep-away camp? Does this sound ridiculous?
Where do you draw the line?
I have to watch myself because I know I have a tendency to want to take care of everybody. ’Cause that’s what a good mom does, right?
Well… not always. A good mom knows when it’s time to step in and when it’s time to step back. Sounds easy, but it’s not always.
Sometimes our kids need to learn the hard way, where no one comes to their rescue. Instead, they need to figure out how to solve whatever problem they have on their own. Some pick up on this naturally while others have a harder time. My kids run the gamut.
So the next time you want to deliver forgotten homework, or help pick up the pieces if disorganization caused them to miss an important deadline, or deliver a needed item to sleep-away camp, stop, and let them learn a lesson in self-sufficiency.