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Archive for August, 2011

Missing that summer vacation

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Do you take summer vacations? Or have you reached a point where your kids have flown the coop and you can schedule time away any time of the year?

We’re somewhere in between. If we want everybody to be included, we have to find time during school breaks. Otherwise, there are now three of us in the household who can schedule get-aways whenever the work schedule can handle it.

I have to admit, however, there’s something about a summer road trip. Maybe it’s just force of habit — all those summer trips when the kids are growing up and it’s the only time you can get away as a family.

Our annual summer sojourn to a cabin up in the Adirondacks was something we looked forward to. It was a simple existence. Board games and card games kept us entertained in the evenings. There were also square dances and activities we could attend in the nearby small town. Days were filled with fishing, hiking, relaxing, and day trips to historic sites or maybe Olympic venues in Lake Placid were thrown in for a change of pace.

Of course, as the kids got older we were challenged to find things to do that we hadn’t done before. They got bored more easily. And playing games at night just didn’t cut it anymore in the entertainment category. So eventually, the trips north stopped and we found other places to vacation.

Now summer just doesn’t seem like summer if there’s not a trip involved somewhere and some time built in to kick back, relax and decompress. So I hope you’ve gotten your summer vacation. And if not, I hope it’s coming soon!

Always look on the bright side of life

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Any Monty Python fans out there will certainly recognize that headline reference. But do you ever feel like there’s a big cloud hanging over your head? Like everything you touch is cursed?

I know it’s in our heads, but when it seems to be happening, it’s hard not to obsess over it. Everybody goes through bad spells, where stupid things happen and you think you’re never going to get back to that nice smooth life, where everything goes as you planned.

When I’m in one of these spells, I try to tell myself that it’s not that big of a deal. It’s easier said than done, but worth putting in the effort. For instance, everybody at home is healthy. When you can say that the rest of your problems pale in comparison, I think. And a tree didn’t fall on my house in the latest storm like it did to another family we know, causing lots and lots of damage and inconvenience as well as safety issues.

No matter what’s going wrong with cars or work or kids, things could be worse and we need to do our best to be thankful for the things we have. Right?

So how do you get through bad spells? Feel free to pass along your tips.