I need a hobby.
I used to have them. I played a couple of instruments, attended exercise classes on a regular basis, I read voraciously, crocheted, and admittedly, even played Dungeons and Dragons once a month with a group of work friends and some of their spouses back in the mid-80s. I’m sure I could list other things if I searched my memory.
These days it seems that I go to work, come home, and either read, watch TV or if necessary, do chores. When the kids were small, I had very little extra free time. My evenings were filled with cooking and laundry, cleaning and any errands that needed to be done. And weekends were spent at hockey games and gymnastics meets and carting kids to and from birthday parties and all sorts of other places they needed to go.
But now my kids do their own laundry. And because I’m often not home until past normal dinnertime, they also are more prone to fending for themselves when it comes to the evening meal. They run their own errands, since two out of three are drivers. Cleaning is another story, but I no longer help them with their rooms or the upstairs bathroom. Hockey games are a thing of the past (unless I’m watching the NHL on TV) since the boys have aged out of anything but a recreational men’s league.
Of course, gymnastics has been replaced by cheerleading and for a few months out of the year, many weekend days are spent at cheer competitions. But the bottom line is, I should have much more free time these days.
So why can’t I jump back into a hobby? What is holding me up? I can’t explain it. Is it laziness? Fear of something? I need to figure it out. What do other moms do as their kids and family become less dependent on them? Many handle this transition a lot better than I — and have no problem filling their free time with fun and meaningful activities!