A Miscarriage of Justice

I know this blog is usually reserved for metaphysical topics.  But I truly feel compelled to share with all of you Sharon’s story, and hope that you will lend your energy to helping her cause that she might have custody of her child returned to her.  Please visit www.change.org/ and sign (if you wish) the petition created by my friend Sharon Fuentes.  Search “Addicted/violent father given son by US court after discovery denied-investigate perjury” (just entering the first few words will bring up the details).  

This petition is intended to bring awareness to a grave injustice, incite a spiritual call for a miraculous reversal of a judicial decision and to call people to action to contact their elected representatives to look into the perjury that occurred in a US Federal Court case. The 7th Circuit Court of Appeals is to hear oral arguments on June 9, 2011.  Everything written is true and can be confirmed by photos, sms messages, videos, recordings and emails.

On July 23, 2010 Judge William D. Steihl  (Norinder v. Fuentes, 10-cv-391-​WDS) ordered a 29 month old American born child who lived alone with his mother for 12 out of 29 months to be returned to his drug addicted, alcoholic, violent and negligent father.  The mother who asserted and maintains that it is a grave risk for a child to be with a man who is an admitted alcoholic, an admitted drug addict, a chronically and debilitated depressed person and violent against his domestic partners and children was denied the right to discovery so that the court could hear all of the evidence. The father is a rehabilitation medicine doctor in Boras Sweden and has been addicted to synthetic codiene and codeine off and on for 17 years, abused alcohol for at least 15 years, hit his daugher, threw his son on the floor, beat the mother of his daughter and the mother of his son and has been so depressed that he has not been able to work for several months at a time during the year for more than 15 years. 

Please forward to every person you know.  Call your elected federal officials in your area and tell them you want Justice for JRN and to look into the perjury by the three Swedes that conspired and stole an American child from his mother (Norinder v. Fuentes, 10-cv-391-​WDS). Write to the DA in Boras Sweden and politely ask that they investigate the mened (perjury) by their countrymen (Attn Mr. Daniel Edsbagge:  registrator.ak-boras@aklagare.se).  And pray for the 7th Circuit Court of Appeals to reverse the decision by Judge Steihl who did not think twice about denying a mother time to collect the evidence needed for the trial and without one thought of the psychological damage that would be done by sending a 29 month old child away from his mother to a man who had very little to do with him and who left the mother of his child outside to freeze to death.

Please know that it is her 3 year old son’s little army truck that is on the Kali shrine at Talisman.  I have been praying for her to be reunited with him every day.  Sharon’s parents are dead, and she has gone through all her savings (and has huge debt) in trying to win back custody of her child.  She just returned from a 3 week trip to Sweden so she could see her son.  Sharon’s big crime was fleeing Sweden with her American born son, after being abused and living in a shelter and receiving no help from the local police or authorities whatsoever.  She assumed the American courts would help her – instead, she lost custody of her child.  Sweden is very “paternity” minded, and takes the rights of the father very seriously … and even though she is a pathologist and worked in hospital there, she was still viewed as an immigrant (and an American one, at that).  Thank you for lending your time and energy to this.  In the seven years I worked for the CT Dept. of Mental Health and two years I was at St. Luke’s in Stamford I NEVER heard of a miscarriage of justice such as this!  We can make a difference!  Please sign, call, write and forward along!

Blessings,
Laura Lenhard
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Remembering Judith

 On May 7th, it will be exactly two years since my personal psychic counselor and mentor, Judith, left this world for life on the Other Side.  In the ten years I knew her, I saw her about a dozen times (every six months to a year) and it was from her that I learned the defining aspects of a truly good reading:

From the very beginning, you should feel comfortable and at-ease

I remember the first time I sat with Judith.  That morning, I had woke with a sick stomach and worried I would have to cancel the reading – but felt much better after lunch and kept our appointment.  Judith read from her home, in a lovely room located right off the main entrance which was dedicated to this purpose.  She would begin by having you sit in a chair while she stood a distance away and meditated.  When she was done, she stood behind the chair and said a prayer – asking that all information be only for the highest good.  Then she would do a chakra reading, assessing the health of each and how to help or further develop them individually.  When she began that first time, as soon as she started she said, “Oh dear – have you been sick because your solar plexis is just churning!”  For the next part of the reading, I was moved to another seat at a small table – whereupon she closed her eyes (and kept them closed) as she described in great detail all of the current concerns and challenges of my life at that time.  When she was done, she opened her eyes and invited me to ask any questions I might have.  Occaisionally she would share a past life vision, visit from a loved one (if they chose to pop in!), and/or read a photograph or object.  Finally, she would pass over a box filled with tumbled stones and ask that I close my eyes and choose one – after smudging it, she would tell me what that particular stone’s attibutes were and how I might utilize it.  She would also have me take a slip of paper out of a basket – an affirmation, which was always relevant.  Last, she would hand over a folder with an astrological print-out of the next six months’ transits, a computerized rune reading (usually uncannily accurate) and a post-it note containing her initial scribbled impressions, written immediately after the phone call to schedule a reading had ended.   It fascinated me how they reflected what was going on at the time of the reading – as opposed to when the appointment was scheduled, which with Judith’s very busy schedule might have been weeks or even months earlier.        
  
You should know exactly how long the reading will last and how much it will cost

Judith’s readings usually lasted 45 minutes to an hour and cost $50.

If you want to talk, see a psychologist.  When you see a psychic, THEY should do most of the talking!  A simple “yes” and “no” to a question should suffice

Those few times that Judith would ask a question, she would quickly “shush” you if said more than yes or no.  

The best readings validate what you are going through or dealing with, letting you know you are on the right track

Often, when I expressed my frustration over a specific challenge, Judith would smile, pat my hand and say “My dear, you already know the answer … you can do this yourself, you know!”  And it was close to ten years ago when, in answer to my question “What should I be doing with my life?” she answered “I see you doing something similar to what I do – not reading out of your home, but something in this area.  I see a storefront …” (to which I immediately protested, letting her know that I HATED retail) but she just smiled and said, “Not right away my child – in time though, we’ll see”.

Unless you are in crisis, you don’t need a reading more than once every six months to a year

After my first reading, I was walking on air – I felt WONDERFUL!  I quickly asked when I might see her again, only to be told no sooner than six months.  “It simply isn’t necessary”.

You should leave the reading feeling more light-hearted than when you came in 

Every single time I saw Judith – and from everyone I sent to her I heard the same – that no matter how difficult or sad the current state of one’s life might be, afterward it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off your shoulders.  

One last thing … A message from me to Judith

Judith, even though we only saw each other face to face during our readings – you were a wonderful friend and I leaned on you HARD during some of the most challenging times of my life.  You offered encouragement, true vision and kept me bouyed at those times when I thought I would surely sink under the weight of it all … telling me it would pass, and all would be fine in the end.  And it always was.   You had faith in my talents and fostered my gifts.  When I sent someone to you, even though I asked them to not mention my name, you always managed to attach them back to me and/or Talisman (which you described in detail even though you never stepped foot inside).  Rarely does a day go by when I do not think of you, and even though I feel your presence often I still miss you greatly.  When it is my time to finally leave this world and cross over, I hope your friendly face is one of the first that I see.  Until then, my friend – I know you walk in light and love. 

Blessed Be.    
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Talisman II Opening at Captain’s Cove Seaport

 
I am thrilled to announce the opening of our second shop, Talisman II, at Captain’s Cove Seaport on Sunday May 1st.  Captain’s Cove is located at #1 Bostwick Avenue, Black Rock (Bridgeport).  You can visit the site at http://www.captainscoveseaport.com then click on the top link “Boardwalk Shoppes” for a look at this picturesque full-service marina.  Talisman II will be seasonal, opening May 1st through the end of September.  We’ll be open weekends in May and September, and six days a week (closed Mondays) June, July and August.   
 

In addition to the small shops there is a food concession, night club, live music on the boardwalk, dance pavillion, sightseeing boat rides, aquaculture school, museum, etc.  This is a wonderful family and pet-friendly place, which has no admission fee, and we are thrilled to be a part of the 2011 Summer Season.  Coincidentally enough, I bought my first condo (while I was still modeling, way back in the “olden days” as my kids say) across the street from Ellsworth Park – and spent many happy hours visiting Captain’s Cove, Bloodroot Vegetarian Restaurant, and walking my dog around the seawall at St. Mary’s by the Sea.  So my memories of Black Rock are fond ones, and I am quite pleased to be making a return there! 

Roy and I met with Mr. Kaye Williams and his son Bruce last weekend, and the management at Captain’s Cove has been very welcoming to Talisman.  We are anticipating a wonderful summer experience at “The Cove” and hope everyone will stop by and visit!  I will be there on Sundays, and splitting my time between the two shops the rest of the week.  Lucky for me, I have Jamie, China, Allison, Kim (my sister in law who was the inspiration behind this decision, urging me a year ago to open a shop there – so props to her!) Mark, Gwen, Andrew, Lina, Barbara, Rachel, Starr, Tim, Tammie, Jenn and even my own little Daisy helping out and taking hours at both Talisman and Talisman II, which is how I can even consider opening a second shop in the first place!   I plan to move a substantial amount of Talisman’s current inventory into the smaller shop, making room for the very exciting new product lines which are coming to Monroe!            

 

 

 

 

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Viva la Revolution!

The month of March is named after Mars, the Roman God of War. Mars is portrayed as a warrior in full battle armor, wearing a crested helmet and bearing a shield. His sacred animals are the wolf and the woodpecker, and he is accompanied by Fuga and Timor, the personifications of flight and fear. His Greek equivalent is the god Ares.  In astrology, Mars is the ruler of Aries.  The sun enters the sign of Aries on March 21, the vernal equinox, and it heralds the season of spring when everything awakens after the dormant winter months.  Aries is the leader, the first sign of the zodiac wheel.  Mars is the planet of energ, action, and of lust and passion. It is the survival instinct/the animal nature of man.  It is an active, initiating sign and its element is fire – bringing enthusiasm, chi, and the spark of life.  With Mars, there is no contemplation before action … the drive is self-assertion rather than assertion of the will; it is raw energy rather than creative energy.

Well, all that being said I’m going to assume that Mars is quite pleased with our current world stage.  Revolution, upheaval and angry protests are taking place in countries all over (including the U.S. – hello, Wisconsin?).  Obviously, passivity just isn’t cutting it anymore.      

To quote, “These are the times which try men’s souls”. Suitably enough, given the historic ill foreboding felt around the date of March 15th, otherwise known as the Ides of March.  The warning was first given to the Roman Emperor Julius Ceasar, whose empire stretched throughout the known world. As Caesar’s power grew, so did the number of his enemies who secretly plotted the emperor’s fatal comeuppance. The date they chose was March 15th, the Ides of March 44 BC.  The word ides comes from a Latin word that means “to divide” and marked the halfway point in Roman months. “The ides”, then, is simply the middle of the month. It was only in 44 BC that dark clouds began to form around the middle of March as the famous plot to assassinate Caesar drew near. Today, historians think the plot had already begun to buzz around Rome when soothsayer Titus Vestricius Spurinna famously warned Caesar …“beware the Ides of March.” The terrible forecast, therefore, may have been based more on Rome’s worst kept secret than any special psychic powers on the part of the seer.   Alas, at the end of the day it didn’t matter.  A swaggering, over-confident Julius Caesar met his terrible fate when he ignored the advice.  The moral of the story? Abuse of power has its pitfalls, with a day of reckoning just up ahead.

I find it strangely fascinating to watch as the reign of entrenched dictators such as in Libya, Tunisia, and Egypt – reach the tipping point of abuse to their citizenry and inevitably fail.  The story of Tanisia’s “last straw” is particularly heartrending, as it is thought to have been sparked in February of this year by the suicide of a young man who could not find a job and was barred from selling fruit without a permit.  After police confiscated the contents of his homemade produce stand when the man was unable to provide required paperwork.  Distraught, he committed suicide in the public square.  After 23 years of iron-fisted rule, the president of Tunisia was driven from power by violent protests over soaring unemployment and corruption. Virtually unprecedented in modern Arab history, the populist uprising sent an ominous message to authoritarian governments that dominate the region. 

But revolutions take place internally – personally – as well as in public or political forums.  With increased frequency, during readings people are telling me about personal situations they are finding unbearable.  The status quo (such as staying in a miserable job because it has good health benefits or remaining in a sad marriage for “the sake of the kids”) simply isn’t working out for many people right now, it seems.  Peace at any price apparently comes at a very high price, indeed.  Especially when an individual longs to spend his/her days engaged in work that is creative and fulfilling – or when someone pines to be with another, because there is no connection with their current partner on a soul level.  

I think we all have our own internal tipping point, a place we are driven to (or not) at which time every fibre of our being screams “enough!” and an abrupt break is the only viable option.  This moment can arrive after a singular event or years of abuse – it doesn’t really matter, because in these situations the destination is more important than the vehicle which got us there.  Validating the level of frustration for the person sitting across from me is honestly all I (or any other ethical intuitive) can do to help.  However, I will pass along the advice which my grandmother, Lillian McGlynn, gave to me at a time I was trying to make a difficult decision.  She said, “I’m not going to tell you what to do, Laura, you have to decide that for yourself.  But I will say that whatever you do, don’t look back in five or ten years and ask yourself ‘what if I had gone the other way, how would my life be different?’ Make the best choice you can and move forward, but never look back.  Regret will ruin your life.” 

Years later, when my grandmother was dying from COPD, against the advice of physicians and family members who warned it would “destroy my home life” I brought my grandmother to live with me while under the care of Hospice.  To this day, I cherish the memories of caring for someone I loved so much – and it makes me smile to remember Derek and Devin fighting over who would get to bring up her breakfast tray each morning because she always managed to slip them a candy or dollar – never realizing I was in on the secret as I listened via the baby monitor (she shared a room with baby Daisy).  And later, my heart would break when I overheard her telling Daisy that she loved her, and hoped she’d remember her after she died although she knew she was too young and would forget her.  Following my grandmother’s death soon after, my then-marriage reached its tipping point fueled by disinterest and a lack of compassion, at a time I was both emotionally and physically spent.  

I guess that’s the challenge we are presented with - when we have nothing left to give, we either give up in despair or fight for autonomy and the right to redirect the course of our life. Or in other words:  “Courage is as often the outcome of despair as of hope; in the one case we have nothing to lose, in the other everything to gain”.  ~Diane de Poitiers

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Scholars, Witches and Other Freedom Fighters

 
The speech below was forwarded along by Zsuzsanna Budapest.  It was delivered at Salem Community College in March ’93 by Gloria Steinem.  It remains relevant and galvanizing – I hope my readers enjoy (and learn) as much as I did.
 
Blessings,

Laura

 
 
 
Scholars, Witches And Other
Freedom Fighters
 
by Gloria Steinem
American Feminist Author
Speech At Salem State College – March 1993
 
Thanks for your generosity of spirit in coming out on a very cold and snowy night and taking a chance on a stranger.
 
 
We have something very precious together and that is an hour or so in this room. So here’s my plan: if all goes well each of us, me included, will leave here with one new fact, one new idea, one new feeling of support, one new subversive organizing tactic. In order to make that happen, I need your help in overcoming this old fashioned structure of you looking at each others’ backs and me looking at you. This is a hierarchical structure. Hierarchy is based on patriarchy, patriarchy doesn’t work anywhere anymore. So I hope that during what is usually called the question and answer period you will feel quite okay to help us overthrow or humanize this particular hierarchical structure by not just asking questions, but giving us answers–we could all use some–by making organizing announcements of any upcoming trouble-making meetings you think this group should know about, by standing up and saying where the bodies are buried locally. If you’d rather not say it yourself, pass me a note, I’m leaving very early in the morning, I’ll read anything. And generally turning this into what every meeting of this size, of good heart and good spirit ought to be, which is an organizing meeting.
 
 
The best role of outside agitators or whatever it is I am, is to be an excuse to get you all in one room and discover you didn’t need an outsider in the first place. You have all the knowledge and smarts and anger and good ideas for making the world a better place that you need right here. That is especially true on this campus where I know there has been so much positive activity and change in the recent past, where you now have taken a leap toward a critical mass of diversity in your student body and on your faculty.
 
 
I know that the last three years of Nancy Harrington’s presidency have really made a great difference here. She is much loved–I have discovered that since my arrival. You have women’s studies, African American studies, at least the beginnings of all those that might better be called remedial studies, so eventually we will study the world as it really is. We can talk about your working on mainstreaming so that world literature actually becomes world literature. Wouldn’t that be exciting. And I know too that this is a campus made more exciting by a lot of non-traditional, as they say, age students and that has a special importance for bringing vitality to the women’s part of this campus, because women happen to be the only group that grows more radical with age.
 
 
It is true, you know, that newspaper reporters and sociologists are always kind of going to high school and campuses and traditional age young women looking for the red hot center of activism and there are, of course, many more activist young women than ever before, but nonetheless it is also true that women are more conservative when we’re young and get steadily more activist as we grow older, which makes sense when you think about it because an 18 or 20 year old woman has more power–in the sense that women have power in a patriarchy, which means as sex objects, as child bearers, as energetic workers, and so on–she probably has more social power at 18 or 20 than she will when she is 50. Whereas a young man of 18 or 20 probably has less power than he will when he is 50, which is why men grow more conservative with age, except the men in this room, whom I’m sure are an exception to everything.
 
 
So, I really am looking forward to our discussion together and as you can tell from the title I had given to my speech, “Scholars, Witches and Other Freedom Fighters,” even though I’m sure if there is a scholar present they would be happy to tell us that the hangings didn’t take place in Salem, they took place in Danvers, but none the less, it’s what made all of you famous and so, I couldn’t resist reflecting on the reasons that both are freedom fighters even though scholars are serene, non-activist, honorable, and respectable and witches are emotional, activist and all-together dishonorable. In other words, the first are masculine in their imagery and the second are feminine in their imagery. But both have a role to play as revolutionaries and freedom fighters for us all.
 
Think about scholars for a moment. When I went to college, I was taught that America was discovered when the first Europeans set foot on it, that Greece was the cradle of democracy, that Europe was the center of civilization, that other areas of the world were spoken of with appellations like “far” and “near” and “middle east,” until someone said to me when I was living in India, “far and near from what?” From England of course. I said okay, I see what you mean. South Asia makes a lot more sense. And generally that the female half of the world, whatever our race or ethnicity or sexuality or class, was treated with great invisibility. I’m afraid that continues to be the rule in spite of brave incursions of remedial studies as we see on this campus and others. And it is for that reason that studies show, for instance, women’s self-esteem goes down with every additional year of higher education. It makes sense when you think about it, no matter how good the grades we get, we are studying our own invisibility or denigration much of the time. And we are seeing fewer and fewer women honored in authority in our classrooms or in our administrations and of course, the same is very much true racially. That was true in my day and is still far too true now.

 

 
 
So we need scholars that are revolutionaries, who dare to think what we might study if we looked at the world as if everyone mattered. If we studied every continent in the reality of their existence instead of the political fact of their power in our view of the world. In fact, by not doing that we are missing a very great deal.
 
Think about what we did not learn about the Native American cultures with a sophisticated nuanced interest. And we are only just discovering how useful to us Native American cultures [are] that were already in this country before it was “discovered.” And think about the true source of much of our democratic tradition in this country. I doubt very much that the European immigrants knew a great deal about Ancient Greece. And in any case in Ancient Greece only about 5 people voted. It was a very limited privilege. In fact, the source of our knowledge of democracy really came from the Native American cultures that were already here. We learned the structure of our government in large part from the Iroquois confederacy. Those wise people advised us and were present in Philadelphia explaining that it was, of course, possible to allow a high degree of autonomy as they did to various nations, the Cherokees and others and still cede certain overall umbrella powers in a confederacy. Benjamin Franklin admitted this as a major source of our democracy in this country, but with condescension: well, if those savages can do it, so can we.
 
 
Well I don’t know about you, but I was much more likely to believe that everything was owed to ancient Greece and very little was owed to the Native American cultures of this country, because I suppose if we had admitted that, we would have also had to admit the genocide that was performed on those cultures and the fact that 90 percent of the individuals were wiped out in just a couple of centuries after the “discovery” of this country or that the teaching of the religion and culture and languages of those who remained was forbidden, was actually illegal well into the 1960s. We have penalized ourselves, in fact, by not having scholars who were freedom fighters and not enough scholars who were willing to go back and look at the real history and uncover the richness of cultures, who in many cases understood a balance between humans and nature, understood a balance between the male and the female, and have–as we are only now discovering–many secrets and much wisdom that we have looked outward for and have not known enough to look in our own back yard, to look inward, and to look at this country and see what we have missed.
 
 
Sometimes I think that the history of a country is much like the history of a person. We’re just beginning to discover that if we had certain patterns put upon us in our childhood–if we were treated with neglect or with violence or were not appreciated for our unique selves, but forced to create a false self to get love and approval–that we continue these patterns in adult life. Even if they are painful, even if they do not serve us well anymore, nonetheless they feel like home–and that has a great power. It is only when we go back and look at the origins of the bruises, which events in current life may be hitting, that we understand the events in current life are not the total cause of what we are experiencing. And if we connect them to their original source, those bruises begin to heal and the patterns begin to change. We begin to make our own decisions rather than continue those decisions that were made for us in childhood.
 
 
I wonder if the history of a nation isn’t something like that history as well. I wonder if we don’t need to go back and look at the childhood of this nation, of those years just after it was founded and after Europeans arrive, to admit what happened to Native American cultures, to really look deeply at what slavery did to all of us and the callouses that it grew upon our souls. If we are to stop repeating the violence that comes with denial.
 
 
You can see it in our own leaders. For instance, think about the difference between Reagan and Clinton. Both were the children of alcoholic fathers who were quite violent to them, both had uncontrollable households to which they returned with great fear and trepidation, not knowing what they would find there. Reagan handled it in the way many of us in the room were encouraged to handle it, which was to feel ashamed of what was happening in the house and therefore, to deny that it was happening at all–No, everything is fine, there’s no elephant in the living room, there’s no shame, everything is fine. And without the chance to go back and look at those childhood patterns, he became the king of denial and he took the whole country into denial–No, there’s no deficit, no there’s no homeless, no, there’s no racism. And you can see the pattern of his leadership as the pattern of his childhood. Not, mind you, that I am preaching childhood determinism, as if whatever happened to us in our childhood determined the rest of our lives–absolutely not. Maybe quite the reverse. If we can go back and look at it and decide if we want to choose it or not, or heal the wounds, then we become even more compassionate toward other people. But in Reagan you could still see the rage of a young man, a boy, facing an all-powerful violent father, even in his attitude toward communists, toward the “evil empire,” toward the Soviets. He demonized the enemy. They weren’t just other human beings, they were all-powerful adults in the face of a much less powerful small boy.
 
Clinton, on the other hand, with a similar childhood, seems to have been able to go back and look at what happened, to understand the suffering of his mother, of his brother, and of himself. To be honest about it, talk about it. There are some people who say that Clinton and Gore are the first two post-therapy leaders. I’m not sure I would put it that way, because therapy is not always so wonderful, either–and it can be quite Freudian and full of denial in and of itself, but none the less it does seem that they have both been able to go back and look clear-eyed and open-hearted at what happened in their childhoods–forgive, understand, and thus be able to actually listen to other people, to look at reality, to say this is what is really going on.
 
 
How rare it is and how much we have suffered for not having leaders listen. It doesn’t mean that you and I don’t have to work. It doesn’t mean that we can ever say “can this leader do it for us.” No. We can only do it for ourselves. What we need is someone who listens. And at least we do seem to have that. If we look at what we have been learning, at the degree of denial and the lack of scholars who are really freedom fighters, even the things we have been studying, we have been studying incompletely.
 
 
I studied Virginia Woolf, too, when I was in college. I never learned she was the survivor of incredible sexual abuse in her household, and once you know that you understand so much about her and you understand her suicide, and her fears. And that has only come out in the past few years, as it has begun to come out about individuals, as women especially have been able to stand up and say what happened to us, not be disbelieved because it was something we imagined (and wanted, mind you), but confirm each others experience, and of course the many boys to whom it happened too, but we were learning only part of the truth.
 
 
Consider something as recent as the space program. I think many of us probably, understandably think that Sally Ride was the first female astronaut. Right? Wrong. In fact, there were 12 women astronauts in the very first class along with John Glenn. They passed all the tests, and did very well and would have been accepted, except they were washed out simply because they were women. There was even a Senate hearing on this question. So it was not a secret, but it isn’t in our history books and it isn’t in The Right Stuff. I suppose if Tom Wolfe would have put that in, it would have been the wrong stuff–if women could do it, too. The sad thing is that those women are still trying to be the explorers and pioneers they were meant to be. I tried to find some of them to take them to Sally Ride’s launch, because I thought I would force the press and the media to understand that there had always been women qualified to do this. I did find one woman named Jane Heart, who had continued to be a pioneer and had gone around the world in a row boat with another woman. I couldn’t find another member of this original group of 12, and I discovered that she was out of the country, because for the last 20 or 30 years she has been collecting money, buying medical supplies, and flying them in a single engine plane up the Amazon River to distribute them among tribes in Brazil. We don’t know this.
 
 
On one evening I watched The Right Stuff on TV and Amadeus. Amadeus, I suddenly realized was completely silent on the fact that Mozart had a sister named Nannerl, whom Mozart said was “the talented one.” They traveled together. The degree to which we have been looking at the world with one eye open and not even all the way open, we have only been seeing particular groups of people, and their history is really staggering. Even the scope of what we study is political. For instance, what we call “pre-history” and dismiss as “pre-history,” is more than 95 percent of human history. We know now–since carbon dating and all of these methods–allow us to understand how long human beings have actually been on this earth. The finds in Africa have also helped us to understand that. So we are actually dismissing as pre-history 95 percent of human history, about which we actually know quite a great deal. It wasn’t patriarchal, it didn’t have the racial divisions, it wasn’t nationalistic. We are studying what we politically have been encouraged to learn so that we will replicate it.
 
 
How did we get into this jam in the first place? We always ask people this question. Women, people of color, any less powerful group we are often confronted with some version of–if you’re so smart, why aren’t you rich–if you’re equal how come you’re not equal. Why aren’t you in the history books? It must be your fault somehow anyway. Of course, nobody knows the whole answer, but it does seem that this current stage of patriarchy, hierarchy, nationalism and so on, began with the discovery of paternity. Until that time, people thought that women bore children when we were ripe, like trees, like plants and so on. The connection between conception and birth was not fully understood and indeed there are some societies in the world in which it is still not fully understood.
 
 
But gradually, with the discovering of paternity, there seems to have come over a millennia the desire to establish ownership of children by particular men and thus to restrict the freedom of women long enough to make sure who the father of the child is. Marriage de-mystified. Right. Restricting the freedom of women long enough to determine paternity. With the new ideas of ownership of children, of ownership of women, came the idea of ownership of territory, of warring for other territory, bringing captured peoples in who were often marked by race or ethnicity as different, to use as slaves and so on. There came to be gradually these kinds of structures that we now consider normal, but they did not always exist, and indeed if we consider the history of spirituality, of religion, it tells us the same thing, because for most of human history god was present in everything, in animals, in plants, in men, in women, in all races. The word pagan just means “of nature.” It’s supposed to be a terrible thing, of course, but that’s all it means.
 
Actually, the overturning of the pre-existing, pre-historic millennia of various kinds of pagan beliefs was done very, very cruelly. It is from this period of 500 years of Inquisition, of the 13th-15th century in Europe, when heresy was the crime and then grew into full-blown witch hunts in the 16th-18th century in an effort to overturn the pre-existing pagan religions, very cruelly getting rid of, literally killing between 1 million and 9 million, nobody’s quite sure, witches. The conservative and probable estimate is 6 million. These were mostly women who were the leaders of the pagan religions. 80 percent of the people burned at the stake, who were tortured, who were killed were women, but there were men as well. The town records in Germany and France reveal whole towns that were left with no females at all of any age, young or old. Travelers reported a countryside absolutely littered with stakes and funeral pyres. The old pagan, everyone matters, all of nature matters, kinds of world views and spiritual views were overturned over the centuries with great, great cruelty and the male gods that had been imposed by the Greeks and the Romans and their imperial systems gradually became Christianity, which, though certainly revolutionary in its origins, became the religion of the elite and feudal lords and later kings who insisted on Latin being the official court as well as the church language.
 
 
I realize that is a breath-taking overview of many thousands of years of history, so let’s just take one example: Joan of Arc. I’m very interested in the revisionist both-eyes-open theory of Joan of Arc. She was legendarily a member of a coven, a part of the old religions, the pagan religion of the common people and it seems that the Dauphin perhaps, an alternate explanation, who had been conducting wars and whose court had been conducting wars for a very long time and decimated the French population was having a lot of trouble getting the peasants to join these armys anymore, understandably. So, perhaps he needed a leader of the old religion still adhered to by the peasants in order to lead the armys so the ordinary people would join up again, have faith again. Joan of Arc seems to have been used in that way. In this interpretation, she becomes not so much a heroine, as a kind of Gunga Din, who went over to the other side, with all good will perhaps, and led her people into the armys of their oppressors, the army of the upper class. She was loyal enough to the old ways to make sure that she herself never killed. As she said, “when we went forward against the enemy, I held my banner aloft to avoid killing anyone, I have killed no one.” But nonetheless, once the wars were won, she had too much power and so she had to be burned as a witch.
 
 
I think it’s endlessly, endlessly interesting to look at history whole instead of half. And thanks to your 300th anniversary here in Salem, I know that you have spent the last year looking at this and being very careful about commemorating your own pale but still tragic version of the witch burnings in Europe. But I think if we look at the events of our own childhoods, of our history, of the world in which we will live now whole, we can learn a lot of lessons about our current life and our current dilemmas. There is a reason why justice for all women, feminist movements, etc…make common cause with justice for gay men and lesbian women. Most obviously because all women can be stopped from bonding and rebelling by the word lesbian as long as that word is a bad word. So we all have common cause in making it honorable, because we will all be stopped by it, all non-conforming women will be stopped by it until it becomes as honorable a word as any other. In fact, if we look at the witch burnings, we find that homosexual men were the object of those persecutions, just as strong and independent women were, who were healers, the wise women, the witches and so on. So much so, that homosexual men were bound together at the foot of the pyres on which witches were burned. The thesis was that only the burning bodies of homosexual men could make a fire hot enough to burn a witch. And that’s where the name faggots comes from, that’s our heritage from those days.
 
 
But it makes sense in our current life to understand why our cause is common. If the point of patriarchy is to restrict women as the most basic means of production and reproduction and direct all sex into having children inside patriarchal marriage, so they are properly owned, then any form of sexual expression that can’t end in conception is the adversary–and it’s still the adversary. It’s exactly the same now, if you look at the Moral Majority who actually are probably the people our European ancestors came here to escape. You will find that this explains what otherwise might seem illogical. Why is it that they are both against contraception and lesbians? Why is it that they actually take formal resolutions in their conferences against masturbation? Incidentally, masturbation was proof of witchery, as far as the church persecutors of women in Europe was concerned. Any form of sexual expression that doesn’t take place inside patriarchal marriage and isn’t directed toward conception is the enemy–and it is the enemy. The adversaries of love between two men and two women and the adversaries of equality for women are still the same people.
 
 
And if we look at history whole we can learn a lot. We can think of Pat Robertson. It may find that we were killing witches because they were healers, because they taught women contraception, because they could perform abortions, because they gave women control of their own bodies. In other words, they were doing a very radical thing in fact, which is seizing control or maintaining control of the means of reproduction. Even sounds radical when you say it that way, right? It may seem a long time ago that they were accused of eating babies and conversing with the devil and all this kind of stuff, but Pat Robertson can tell us today that all feminists really want is to leave their husbands, kill babies and become lesbians.
 
 
If we look at the Malleus Maleficarum, which was the handbook of witch killing–what to do about uppity women who insisted on being autonomous, independent and practiced medicine and healing–which was incidentally an instruction in killing and witch hunting written by two Dominican monks in 1486, we find that they said “among women, mid-wives–who often perform abortions–surpass others in wickedness. All witchery comes from carnal lust in women which is insatiable.” I bet we could put that in the mouth of the head of the Mormon Church or the Ayatollah and it would sound quite the same. We could look in our own bible where it says in Samuel 15:23, “Rebellion is as the sin of Witchcraft.” We can look at Martin Luther–we shouldn’t land only on the Catholics–who was the founder of Protestantism, “If woman grows weary and at last dies from child bearing, it matters not, let her die from bearing, she is there to do it.”
 
If we wonder why men who now also assert their whole selves and dare to claim the supposedly female parts of their nature–if you’re going to have a male dominated society, you have to teach men to suppress the gentle, nurturing, empathetic, flexible parts of their nature, by saying that it is feminine, which of course is a libel on men. Men have all these qualities, too. Men who assert this wholeness are punished now, much in the same way as warlocks were punished in earlier centuries. And if we allow religions, which are often politics made sacred–you know: politics in the sky, god looks like the ruling class–to convince us to live a deferred life, to live for life after death–it’s really quite amazing that they got us to do that–then that is not at all different from the philosophy of the burning times of the witch burning days, when this world was judged to be a punishment and one was to live only for life after death.
 
 
If we dare to live in the present, to live to the fullest, then we may be punished in somewhat the same way. But we can learn from scholars who look at the world whole. We can learn from understanding that witches were indeed healers and freedom fighters and not people to be denigrated on Halloween or any other time. Perhaps we should devote our next Halloween to having a celebration of witches as wise women. This means a very deep change, because it means changing the whole paradigm of masculine and feminine with which children grow up and which is the root of the idea of subject/object, winner/loser, and the whole model on which race and class and all other hierarchies are built. In the name of both scholars and witches I thought I’d read from a poem called “Network of the Imaginary Mother,” which Robin Morgan, a wonderful poet and now editor of Ms. Magazine, a wonderful writer, wrote because I think we need to hear the names of the women and hear what happened to them, just as we need to understand what happened in our own childhoods and look at it with open eyes and just as we need to understand what happened in the childhood of our own country before we can stop repeating those patterns.
 
 
“Repeat the syllabull……..” [Poem not included in the text of the speech]
 
 
And every day when we open the newspapers and we see in Montreal the massacre of women killed because they were feminists, when we see the mass murderers who say that they picked out women who seemed too smart, too rebellious. When we see the statements of the very clear patriarchal and racist leaders who are still among us, we can learn a lot from looking at the past and from looking with new eyes as scholars, as witches. With a sadness and a tragedy, I have really come to believe that, as I wrote in Revolution from Within, “if our biggest dreams for ourselves, for what our world could be like, if those dreams weren’t already real inside us, we couldn’t even dream them.”
 
 
Let me leave you with more practical lines, by Marge Piercy:
 
 
Alone, you can fight,
you can refuse, you can
take what revenge you can
but they roll over you
But two people fighting
back to back can cut through
a mob, a snake-dancing file
can break a cordon, an army
can meet an army
Two people can keep each other
sane, can give support, conviction
love, massage, hope, sex.
Three people are a delegation
a committee, a wedge. With four
you can play bridge and start
an organization. With six
you can rent a whole house,
eat pie for dinner with no
seconds, and hold a fund raising party.
A dozen make a demonstration.
A hundred fill a hall.
A thousand have solidarity and your own newsletter;
ten thousand, power and your own paper;
a hundred thousand, your own media;
ten million, your own country.
It goes on one at a time,
It starts when you care
to act, it starts when you do
it again after they said no,
it starts when you say We
and know who you mean, and each
day you mean one more
.
Copyright 1987 by Gloria Steinem. All rights reserved

Source: http://gos.sbc.edu/s/steinem2.html
 

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2011: Year of the Metal Rabbit

2011 is the year of the Rabbit, in the Chinese lunar calendar. Element: metal. Color: white. Rabbit is the fourth animal in the 12-year cycle of the Chinese zodiac. It is the sign for people born in 1915, 1927, 1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, and 1999.

Chinese Zodiac Sign: the Rabbit

The Rabbit is a symbol of elegance, mercy and peace; it is sensitive and gentle. Among the 12 animals, according to Chinese astrology, people born in the year of rabbit are the most delicate. Even though rabbits are cautious, rabbit people are very emotional. Usually they’re shy, kind and tender. They make good friends and great partners in relationships. Nevertheless, their own space is important for them.

Family is always priority number one for rabbits. A bright example here is world-known Hollywood couple Anjelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. They both were born in the year of rabbit, as one can see they care a lot about their family. Other famous rabbit people include:  Johnny Depp and Drew Barrymore, Jane Seymour and Kate Winslet, Tina Turner and Whitney Houston, Albert Einstein and Frank Sinatra, Jose Mourinho and Elle Macpherson.

People who born in the year of rabbit are ambitious and talented, but the most of rabbit people are pessimistic. Another thing about rabbits is that many of rabbit people are financially lucky. They are careful with money, but like to make investments in crafts and arts.

2011 Animal Prediction: Astrology & Horoscopes

Chinese astrology and horoscopes predictions, Indian astrology predictions and other free online astrology services say 2011 will be the year of peace. It also can mean that the Rabbit year may bring one’s friends and family closer. Let’s take a look at some 2011 animal prediction.

Rat – 2011 brings new perspective in life, however it is not a great year for rat people. The career goes up, but rats should be very careful if they sign some new contracts in the future.

Ox – 2011 is also not a perfect year for Ox people. However, there could be some good and happy moments in life in all aspects. The new year can bring all good in general luck. What’s more, it can give a great opportunity for Ox people to gain financially.

Tiger – 2011 is a great year for the tiger people, especially in terms of career. It is also the year of romance, wealth and opportunities for tigers. 2011 brings many surprises!

Rabbit/hare – of course, it’s a great year for rabbit people. There is a success in career and private life. Generally speaking, it is very rewarding year in all aspects of life for rabbits. Interestingly enough that in the Vietnamese version of the Chinese Horoscope, the Rabbit is replaced by Cat.

Dragon – 2011 brings changes, challenges and opportunities. If earlier some doors were closed for dragons, this year the doors will be open. However, Chinese horoscopes predict dragons should be very careful in accidents, which involve metal, for example, knives, cars or other metal items.

Snake – it will turn out to be a good year for snake people. It is a great year for career, business and love. However, the Year of the Metal Rabbit may not be a good year to make investments. Also, snakes should take care more about their health, it needs more attention. Also, astrologists and predictors suggest avoid working for many hours in front of the computers or laptops.

Horse – the new year brings many changes in life for horse people. It’s a busy year, but 2011 is much better than 2010 in comparison. Horses will see positive and negative moments in life. However, it is highly recommended for horses to stay positive no matter what happens in life.

Goat/Ram/Sheep – busy, but a wonderful year for goat/ram/sheep. Actually, 2011 is called the best of years to make new plans, get into new projects and meet new people. It is a good year for finances and investments, but there is a need to be careful with money – as they come and go quickly.

Monkey – monkey people will be happy, because the Rabbit year brings many happy and exciting moments. 2011 is the year of luck in romance, career, finance and wealth. However, monkey should try to keep their money.

Rooster – it could be a difficult year for rooster people. Plus, the year’s element – metal – is also not favorable for roosters. Rooster may gain financially, but 2011 may bring some money difficulties.

Dog – 2011 is fantastic and amazing for dogs! Lots of happy moments during the whole year. However, dog people should take care more about their health and work a lot if they want see some changes in life.

Boar/pig – 2011 is an interesting year for pigs. Many problems can be resolved. The Rabbit year is much better than the Tiger one, horoscopes say. There will be new perspectives in business and gain in finances. Nevertheless, pigs should also pay more attention to their health in the coming year.

The Rabbit Year is said to be fortunate. Almost everything will come more easily in 2011. The year of the Metal Rabbit promises to bring peace, joy, calmness and many happy moments.

Sources

Chinese New Year 2011 Prediction. www.astroyogi.com

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Merry Yuletide Greetings!

So, Yule (Christmas) is upon us at last and the general consensus from the folks I am meeting is that most are … underwhelmed.  I think the general lack of expendable income for gift-buying has resulted in people really opening their eyes and SEEING, maybe for the first time, just how commercial and overbloated this season has become.  I mean, c’mon - it is no longer shocking see Christmas goods on display one aisle over from the Halloween stuff! 
 
Yet this can be a wonderful opportunity – if we allow it – to regain focus on the ones we love (family, friends, pets) and let the other crap just go away.    The irony of the American Christmas is twofold:  One, blatant greed is no way to celebrate the birth of ANYONE much less the son of God; and two, historical data indicates Christ would have been born in the spring, anyway.  The cause for celebration, whether it be the birth of The Son or the birth of the new sun (Winter Solstice) is a matter of spiritual choice.  But the fact remains that this is one of the few festivals that are celebrated in many of the same ways by Christians and Pagans/Wiccans alike.   We decorate with evergreens, wreaths, gold candles, and lights.  The Yuletide Season is marked by feasting, drinking and general merriment.  Fires and candles are lit in both Christian and Pagan homes, acknowledging the life-giving power of the returning sun or the “Sacrificial God” as symbolized by the light and warmth of the flames.   In fact, the decorations in many Pagan homes are virtually indistinguishable from that of a Christian.  
 
But there is a difference:  Christians remember and celebrate the singular event of a virgin birth and arrival of the Messiah; Pagans revel in the annual cycle of seasonal change.  Yule falls on the shortest day of the year – it is the longest, darkest night; a time of completion and the death of the old year.  It is also the night on which the Goddess gives birth to the new Sun, beginning a restoration of light, life and warmth to the land.  From this point onward the days lengthen and the sun’s power increases until it reaches its peak at the midsummer solstice. 
 
I think that knowing this helps one to understand better the meaning of an “earth-based” (pagan) religion.  As Yule is one of the great turning points of the year, it is an ideal time for rituals of purification, contemplation and preparation.  Again, a commonality between Christians and Pagans.  And I say this not to homogenize these two very different faith paths, but rather to educate so that understanding and true tolerance may emerge.  A Christian Witch makes about as much sense (to me) as the Jews for Jesus movement … but if we can understand and appreciate one another, we can work together to bring about a better world for those loved ones (family, friends, pets) I wrote of earlier.  No matter what face or name we assign our respective Diety(ies), and regardless of our spiritual path, wouldn’t that be the very BEST gift in honor of The Divine?     
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Space Cleansing 101

During the past two weeks, I have fielded several out-of-state calls from people dealing with negative energies/entities AND my shop is almost out of sage bundles, as folks have been coming in and buying them by the handfuls.  So, I guess it is time for a quick review of how and why we cleanse our personal space – whether it be our home or office.

First, why do we cleanse a space?  Let me ask – have you ever stepped into a bar immediately following a bar fight?  Even if you didn’t witness the actual incident, did you “feel” the electricity and/or heightened emotion in the air – and you instinctively knew something major had occured?  How about a  home where a couple had just had a huge fight – or one where a divorce was pending?  Or an office with an overbearing, bully of a boss?  Negative, heavy atmosphere, right?  Of course, the holidays can cause some folks to sink into a depressed state – these people come to visit and can leave all their sad baggage behind to add to the mix as well.  

Over time, this heaviness collects and literally “brings everyone down”.  It can be in a home, place of business or office space.  If it gets bad enough, over time it can eventually provide a harbor for negative entities which flourish in just such an environment.  “Clearing the air” so to speak, is easily done and a great way to regain or assert your right to a calm, peaceful space.

This is how I cleanse a space:  All you need is about two handfuls of coarse sea salt and a sage smuge stick (costs about $5 total at Talisman).  While sage is traditional, it can make your space smell like pot (!) so if this will be an issue you can substitute cedar, juniper, camphor blocks/sticks or copal – all these cleanse equally well.  It is nice to do this in the evening if possible – and start by taking a bath with one handful of the salt. While you soak, clear your mind of the day’s concerns and imagine all your negativity being washed away and vanishing down the drain. Once you’re dried and dressed, take the smudge and a lighter (you may have to re-light it periodically) and stand outside your front door.  Light the smudge, let it catch fire and blow it out – wave it around the doorframe, using your hand or a feather/fan to direct the smoke. Say: “This is MY house/office.  Only light and love are allowed here!”  (or something to that effect) as you enter.  In a house, work from the bottom up – basement to attic – and move clockwise through each room. Focus on the corners near the ceiling and don’t forget bathrooms and closets. Important: Leave windows cracked while you work so the “negativity” can exit your home; the smoke will fill the now-empty space so it cannot return (nature abhors a vacuum). When you are done, use the remaining salt to create a “line” at the threshold of your front door – it will help keep your home cleared by causing negativity to “slough” off persons before they enter.

Don’t expect miracles – that negativity will be waiting for them when they leave unless they make a conscious choice to remove it permanently! So your annoying family members/co-workers will still be annoying — only they can’t dump their crap leaving it to fester in your personal space. You can freshen up periodically by lighting a sage incense stick in any room that feels “heavy” and also add salt to keep the line(s) at the doorways intact
 
And there you go – a little practical magick to make your life a little better!

Blessings,

Laura

 
 
 

 

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