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It Sucks to Go to the Principal’s Office

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I wrote before about our scheduled visit with my 12 year old daughter’s middle school. It was intimidating. Everyone of her teacher’s was there, including an extra student teacher, the principal, and the school psychologist with  just my husband and me.

It was hard. I had concerns but I couldn’t seem to get them heard. The teachers had their own ideas about what they wanted and we just kept talking past each other. When I tried to rephrase what the teachers were saying so I could understand it better, the principal yelled at me because, well, even though what I said was accurate, he felt insulted.

It was humiliating and nothing came of it. It was nice to see the teachers. They seemed genuinely concerned but, ultimately, would do nothing different.

I’ve heard stories of people in my school district struggling to get help for their children and having to bring in copies of the law or wait until their children were performing well-below grade level before getting results, but I thought they were the exception.

And that’s the end of that (and the whining here!).

Talking with the School is Not Fun

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I am going to be meeting with the kid’s school this week. It’s weird. This is our second meeting. I go into a room and sit. Around me are the school principal, a school psychologist, a teacher’s aide, the teacher, a guidance counselor, and another school administrator.

I get talked at. In our last meeting, the principal got to play good cop while the other administrator dashed any positive statements he made in the perfect bad cop role. It is very intimidating. Six against one. And more than that, the “one”, me, has less say than even that.

They agree to meet because I ask for it.  Which means I’m at a disadvantage. They haven’t seen an issue and I’m interrupting their day. And I’m not certified by a state agency and did not go to education school. Which means that I have to talk twice as much to be acknowledged.

This second meeting? I’m not holding out much hope. This time the school offered it. Will it be different because it wasn’t started by me? Maybe. I hope so.

Ah! Snow and Musings on Ex-Babies

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The snow on Saturday was pretty easy for me, a work-at-home mom who didn’t have to go out until the late afternoon. Our new plow guy rules. Not only did he plow and sand, his son shoveled the snow from behind our cars and even moved our trash cans out of the giant snow pile. Very impressive!

My four year old can put on his own gloves (mostly) and even put on his own snow pants (mostly). Accomplishments he notices but that I celebrate silently. He is getting bigger and bigger.

When my first child was little, I adored every new skill she demonstrated and mourned at the same time. I felt like I was always going to miss the gurgling smiles or baby talk words. Every advance was tinged with the loss of the adorable baby-ness that I so loved. Then it was the loss of the adorable toddler-ness, and on and on.

I remember speaking with a friend whose child was already a teenager. I was telling her how much I will miss all of the cuteness. “I just love how wonderful this age is,” I said.

She replied, “All of it is wonderful. Every age brings something amazing.”

And it is right. Now that my oldest daughter is 12, I can say that seeing her come into her own skin as a young lady is just as gratifying as cuddling her when she was just learning to speak. And as my son learns to be self-sufficient, I celebrate his independence and look forward to fully enjoying, with no sadness, each of his phases of development.

Explore Ideas to Stay Active with Run! Jump! Fly! at Stepping Stones Museum for Children in Norwalk, CT

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We all know it is healthy to get moving. Run! Jump! Fly! is an exhibit designed to help kids explore different ways of staying active in an around-the-world tour. There is even a passport you can use to make sure you try every one. Here is a run down of what you can expect at the new exhibit.

The exhibit is designed for ages 5 to 12. Every explanation is bilingual and most of them incorporate variations for children in wheelchairs. I was invited to check it out with my fairly tall four year-old and he was able to enjoy most of it.

He started with the most visually appealing activity first: four balance boards (they look like skateboards with giant spring underneath) in front of a giant TV. The TV showed scenes of hang-ten waves (dude!) or snowy terrain. The exhibit even included Hawaiian shirts for those who want to be the Big Kahuna or warm vests for carving. He excitedly put his passport in the stamp area and marked off this one.

My little guy next rushed over to the flycycle, an exhibit that uses standard bicycle, recumbent bike, and arm-cycle motions to flap and whirl wings over your head. He really enjoyed doing the helicopter style flycycle enough to make all of the stars light up. The flapping wings flycycle had broken lights so he just watched as his pedaling got the wings to flap. He put his card in the slot for a stamp.

The strength exhibit really did test his strength. He had to try the monkey bars and chin up bar (yep—mommy got a bit of a workout here, too, as I had to hold him up to do either of those). After trying out the other two attachments to the strength area (push yourself with your legs and a HealthRider-inspired mechanism), we stamped another section of the passport.

The mountain climbing canyon had hand and foot holds for larger and smaller kids. We couldn’t really figure out what to do here after getting onto the wall. I thought there might be more to it. He held himself to the wall in a few places, after putting on a mountaineering vest, and then walked, shakily and with multiple remounts, across a balance bar. He loved entering and leaving the canyan through a cut out tunnel. Thankfully for adults, you can just walk in. Stamp!

The stamps became the main draw after he was finished with the bigger exhibits. Before we started using the passport he was not going to do yoga. When he wanted to fill out the entire passport we did yoga, dancing, and kung fu by following the examples. The yoga examples were pictures. Cat. Stamp. The dancing kiosk had videos you could pick. He chose to follow a video of a boy dancing labeled Miguel. Stamp.

The Kung Fu forest had a uniform you could wear while trying to imitate the moves in the video. To help you out, you can press a button for each form and the photos light up to help you know the order in which to move. The video of a father and son running through the moves helps, too, though it is fast. Stamp. Most of the stamps (the ones he liked the most) worked fine. Some of the stamps need to be replaced and Stepping Stones is working on that.

Done!

It took us just over an hour to try everything out. For you moms with smaller kids wondering how you will be able to entertain them while your older child plays in the exhibit, no worries. There is a climbing pyramid specifically for 3 years and under with steps, a rope ramp, and a slide. There is also a reading nook.

Run! Jump! Fly! is a great addition to Stepping Stones. It is definitely worth taking time to visit when you decide to head over to Stepping Stones.

Connecticut Science Center Review for Families

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Interactive floor at the Connecticut Science Center

Interactive floor changes to musical instruments and scenes of bubbles or balls.

The Connecticut Science Center opened an architecturally intriguing building in Hartford two years ago. The outside of the Science Center is interesting and spare.

The expansive, open lobby at the CT Science Center

The expansive, open lobby at the CT Science Center

The same goes for the inside, for the architecture and the exhibits. The main lobby is expansive, open all the way to the roof many stories above. Colorful, red stair railings zig zag all the way up to the sixth floor. Not to worry, there are three glass elevators that are used almost exclusively.

Here are the coolest, most time-worthy, don’t miss exhibits:

  • KidSpace: a colorful, water-filled lab where balls follow the stream and kids can get very wet. Though it is designed for eight years and under, my 10 year old still enjoyed it. It was hard to get my four year-old to leave. It is a well-lit area adjacent to the Science Center’s enormous glass well. Aprons help to keep the little ones a little drier.
  • The 3-D movies
  • The native Connecticut marine animals on the 6th floor
  • The hurricane chamber, also on the 6th floor (though the wind never actually gets stronger after 25 mph even though the report of speed implies that it would get as high as 80 mph).
  • Touch a real meteorite in the Space exhibit on the 5th floor–I like it but my kids didn’t really get the coolness of it.
  • KidSpace at the Connecticut Science Center is designed for 2nd grade and younger, but is fun for older kids, too.

    KidSpace is designed for 2nd grade and younger, but is fun for older kids, too.

    Also in the Space exhibit are loungers to lay back in and watch a journey through the universe.

  • The Invention area with a golf ball Rube Goldberg machine which is also on the 5th floor.
  • LEGO table and ramp in the Invention area.
  • In the Sports Science area, an arcade ski game I remember from my youth is a lot of fun, fifth floor.
  • The kids really enjoyed whacking a mannequin head with a heavy weight, also in the Sports Science exhibit.
  • The Mind Ball in the Picture of Health, fifth floor, was a big hit with my kids.
  • My littlest wanted to feed a virtual lady and make her fat and skinny but he was a bit too short for the game in Picture of Health on the fifth floor.
  • I would have loved to have made a crater and my daughter tried for several minutes until we realized the exhibit wasn’t working. I hope it works when you visit.
  • The interactive floor in the Sight and Sound exhibit on the fourth floor.
  • Racing down a ramp in Forces in Motion, also on the fourth floor.
  • Holding a ball in an airstream (a Bernoulli demonstration), Forces in Motion.
  • Making a paper helicopter to float in an airstream, Forces in Motion
Make your own paper cone flier at the Connecticut Science Center

Make your own paper cone flier

The temporary exhibit on Animation was fairly interesting for my 10 year old. The four year-old was too young to get much out of it. I particularly enjoyed the stop-motion animation stations, of which there were four.

Those are a small portion of the exhibits available at the museum. Each of the areas has many more exhibits. The ones listed above were the ones that actually held the children’s attention.

We went this past weekend and the museum was delightfully empty. We had plenty of time to explore each area. We felt we had a full day at the museum after four hours. If you are willing to spend a lot of time in the water area or having your kid build with LEGOs, then you could spend more time.

The museum has a cafeteria and gift shop, but no coat room or place to store strollers. The museum recommends to not even bring a stroller and to carry your baby instead. If you have a coat or bag you don’t want to carry around for hours, you have to pay for a locker space.

There was very little explanation through out the museum–except for the sports area where there was more explanation with much less interactivity. Many of the demonstrations were not particularly interactive. As an exampled of a lack of science, in Exploring Space there were two places where different wavelengths of light were used, yet there was no good explanation of the electromagnetic spectrum.

Bernoulli Demonstration at Connecticut Science Center

The beach ball stays in the airstream

My kids felt the Exploring Space exhibit was boring because it only had movies, save for the crater exhibit that was not working.  The video of the sun had recordings of the two most boring years during the least active solar minimum. I felt the whole experience was more akin to a children’s museum than a science museum.

While, as a mechanical engineer, I could imagine so many ways the exhibits could be improved with more reliable operation, real interactivity, and more in-depth explanations, the ultimate result is whether my kids had fun, and they did.

So head out for a day of fun to the CT Science Museum. The kids will definitely find fun things to enjoy. Hours are 10 am to 5 pm each day. The museum is closed most Mondays. It costs $17 for each adult and $14 for children 4-17, 3 and under are free. Movies are an additional $5 to $7 and typically run 4o minutes.

Additional information for things to do with kids in CT. More writing about parenting and education.

Consistency is the Name of the Game

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I was one relaxed momma.

My father voluntarily took all three of my kids for a long weekend. I don’t know what he was thinking. Although I am with my 12 year old, 10 year old and four year old all of the time, I am sure it must be intense for someone not used to it.

Yet he did take them and they had a great weekend. The weather was lovely and they spent a good deal of time playing outside and exhausting themselves. The four year old, who is notoriously difficult to get to sleep, went to bed well all weekend.

Now all of the kids are back home and we are resuming our usual routines with a little extra oomph because of my New Year’s resolution to keep the house cleaner.

And that resolution has already hit a huge snag. I thought my 12 year old would be the truculant one derailing our efforts. Nope. The lovely, relaxing weekend I enjoyed while the kids were at my father’s house has left me with a potty training regression.

Instead of just reminding the kids to pick up after themselves and establishing new chore charts, I’m cleaning furniture and giving baths four times a day. It is difficult to embark on new routines when I have to clean up emergencies frequently.

So I am back to setting timers every two hours to remind my guy to head to the potty. I just hope it is only a short trip!

Being the Daughter of Two Engineers is No Guarantee of Liking Science

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It seems pretty obvious that being an engineer and being married to an engineer, that we like science. We do. We have both been quite gratified in our careers. We enjoy having the ability to discern, at least roughly, the validity of scientific claims.

We believe that educating our children in science and math will allow them to be independent thinkers with a good foundation in logical thinking and a working knowledge of how we, as humans, know about the world around us.

I do science demonstrations with my kids for fun. When I volunteer in school, I choose a science activity to do with the class. I love helping other parents find out about great learning resources. My husband teaches astronomy and computer programming to local kids.

In short, I am in awe of science and great scientists and hope to pass that joy of discovery onto my children.

So how is that working? My 7th grade daughter has been at the forefront of our “assault”. She sat in on my husband’s first astronomy class when she was eight years-old. I actually taught a weekly science class that she attended.

As of right now, she is not in love with science. I might get a “cool” or “let me see that” occasionally. Her passion lies in writing.

I could feel bad that yet another girl may not choose science as a career, not helping the gender imbalance of technical fields. Perhaps I should worry because America may no longer be competitive because so few of our children choose STEM careers.

Ultimately I want what all parents want. That my daughter chooses a career that encompasses her passion and that she can make enough money doing it to support herself. If she never becomes an engineer, it will be just fine.

Besides, college is a long way off for a 7th grader, so I am still hopeful that she may become a quantum physicist.

How You Can Make Your Children Smarter

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When I was pregnant with my first child, the book I purchased after “What to Expect” was about helping to maximize my child’s intelligence (it may have been “How to Raise a Brighter Child”, but I am not sure). I am going to use the words intelligence and smarts to mean learning fast and making broader connections.

From the reading I have done, much of intelligence is inherited. But “much” is not “all”. There is a lot that parents can do for their children to be as smart as possible. It seems that being smart can be associated with how brain cells are connected. Unlike animals, humans can make the choice to help mold how the brain develops.

Good Nutrition

All of our bodies and brains are made from the food we eat. Our whole bodies break down and are built again using the macro and micronutrients we ingest. Eating an adequate amount of food is necessary and make sure you offer lots of fruits and vegetables. I am not a nutritionist but I make sure my kids get fatty fish (it is brain food, after all) in their diet, take a multivitamin (offering great food has been no guarantee that they eat it), and I insist they eat protein. If I could find an affordable, tasty, chewable DHA supplement, I would make sure the kids took that as well.

Open-Ended Play

If you read my last post about great toys to make your kids brainier, you may notice that many of the things I recommended do not have a specific, single answer. Open-ended play helps children explore different ways things can go together which means the connections in the brain will reflect that larger understanding, not just a single, specific outcome. Since I defined smartness as making broader conclusions, this will help.

Learn Something, Anything, New

Every time humans learn something new, they need to make neural connections in the their brain. We build our brains through learning. I actually saw an MRI image of a person who played piano and a person who played violin. The piano player had visible extra brain material in the area of the brain that controls the motion of their hands because playing the piano is more left-hand intensive than the violin. Each time people (and this goes for adults, too!) learn something new, they are increasing their brain. Whether those brain cells will be able to be used for other things can depend on age (too bad for us older people), but for kids, they are able to repurpose those cells more easily.

What counts as learning something new? Juggling. Using the mouse with your left hand if you are right-handed. Really, anything you don’t already do.

Keep Those Newly Developed Brain Cells

You cannot talk about maximizing your child’s potential without talking about protecting the brain structure they have. Wear those helmets! Avoid concussions and bouncing the brain back and forth in their skull. Obvious things like falls and blows to the head (everyone remembers the phrase “punch drunk”, right?) should be avoided. There is research pointing to even less obvious behaviors like heading a soccer ball as being problematic.

Standard pediatric practice is to check for lead levels in the blood. Lead poisoning is a serious risk to brain health. Make sure your children don’t ingest lead. Brain health is a great reason to avoid a bunch of bad things like inhalants, and illegal drugs.

Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Everyone needs sleep. Even though we do not know the exact way sleep works yet, there is plenty of evidence that not getting enough sleep is damaging. Make sure your kids your kids have time to relax each evening and get physical exercise each day so they can fall asleep more easily. Have a bedtime routine and a consistent bed time. I have written notes to my children’s teachers if the kids could not finish their homework if it was so extensive that they would have had to stay up late to finish it (assuming they started it before dinner, that is).

Parent Well

If you have even made it this far down into the post, then I know you want to help your kids the best you can. Parent your children to help maximize their learning. Along with taking care of their bodily needs mentioned above, we can be influences in a number of ways. We can demonstrate learning new things! We read in our own free time, fun books and more challenging books like classics and non-fiction. We should praise effort and thinking, not give credit to some inherent ability. We do not need to speak down to our children. Use your extensive vocabulary and explain the words the kids do not understand. We need to listen to our children. We can choose games and toys that stretch the mind.

Most importantly, we can prioritize smartness. We praise great thinkers in front of our children. We avoid nerd and geek stereotypes and object to our children using them. We share new things we have learned. We show that we are proud when our kids choose intellectual pursuits.  As this dad says, cheer just as much for that A as you would for a goal on the soccer field.

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