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Ph.D., Psychology, author, speaker, consultant

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Don’t Waste Your Time (It’s Precious)

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Please, don’t waste my time! If you do, don’t expect me to hang out with you for very long. And don’t expect me to spend time with you in the future. I confess, I discriminate against certain people. I don’t hate these people; most are quite decent and likeable. Though I do avoid them as […] [Read More]
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The Ultimate Price of Our Hyper-Achievement Culture

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In a recent post, I described the high cost that pushing kids too hard can have on their lives. A truly tragic example of this trend is Madison Holleran, a U. of Penn student and athlete, who committed suicide in early 2014. On the surface, she was a happy, and successful young woman. But inside there […] [Read More]
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Is Emotional Openness the Key to Healthy Relationships?

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Have you ever been at a social event, whether a hosted dinner, picnic, party, what-have-you, and you meet someone who is obviously intelligent, well educated, and successful? You fully expect an interesting conversation, yet it stumbles from the start. The conversation stays at a superficial level and, within a short time, you are actually struggling […] [Read More]
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From Disabled to Super-Abled: Redefining Being Physically Challenged and Human

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I recently was invited by the Huffington Post (for whom I blog weekly) to write a post about a TED talk by Aimee Mullins, a double-amputee who has received world-wide acclaim as an athlete, actress, model, inspirational speaker, and an innovator for the physically challenged. How we look at so-called disabled people is certainly changing […] [Read More]
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So What Makes Malcolm Gladwell Such an Expert?

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I have to admit that I used to be a fan of Malcolm Gladwell. I read his frequent articles in The New Yorker and several of his early books. I was initially seduced by his apparent breadth of knowledge, cerebral dexterity, and inviting writing style. But the more of his work I read, the more […] [Read More]
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We’re All Disabled

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The Huffington Post, for whom I blog weekly, asked me to write a post for the TEDWeekends edition of its website focusing on the TED talk by the wheelchair -bound performance artist, Sue Austin, titled, Deep Sea Diving…In a Wheelchair. The only instructions I was give was to consider the following themes: “How society views […] [Read More]
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Life is Fragile: Say “I Love You” a Lot

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I remember my life in my 20s and 30s when I was single. I felt invincible. Life was so carefree. I lived in the present, didn’t think much about the future, and didn’t worry too much about anything (except perhaps finding a wife). No longer. I’m well into middle age now (yikes!), married, and with […] [Read More]
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“Getting Old Sucks!”

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“Getting old sucks!” That’s what my 86-year-old father shared with me on a recent visit. He has lived in Boca Raton, Florida, since moving from my childhood home in Connecticut a few years ago. He lives alone; his wife of 49 years, my mother, died of ovarian cancer ten years ago at the age of […] [Read More]
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